People sometimes asked: “If EFT is such an effective self help tool, why spend the money? Why do I need you?”
Here are some thoughts on this…
I see my role to be a facilitator for healing work to take place. I hold a safe, sacred and private space for you to do your work.
EFT is indeed an amazing and effective self help tool and it is possible to get extraordinary change with even the most basic knowledge and little or no understanding of the ‘science’ and thinking behind it.
However, there are times when EFT doesn’t seem to work on one’s self and you just get nowhere. This is where the practitioner comes in, when you are stuck.
It is human nature not to ‘go there’ if ‘there’ is deemed too uncomfortable, either consciously or unconsciously. Some of us are masters at distraction. We’ll do anything to avoid the issues we know at some level we need to be looking at.
As human beings we are well used to suppressing our negative thoughts and emotions. The most usual response to ‘How are you?’ is ‘Fine’. How often is that the truth?
Why should we acknowledge the negative stuff, as we do in the EFT set up statement? Why not push it away? We’re in this mess because pushing it away does not work in the long term; it is a temporary measure, a band aid approach. At some point the unconscious mind will draw our attention to it in some other way, whether through physical aches and pains, depression, anxiety or other emotional states. With EFT we have ways of carefully resolving and changing the overall symptoms systematically and relatively painlessly. And we can often do this for ourselves, but getting started can seem overwhelming.
At some point the unconscious defences leak – something happens and we are forced to confront our reality. This is where I come in – to create a strategy for you, a path for you to take, to clarify and simplify, to support and guide you in your work.
My role is to be there when you come up against a block, to be the detective, use my skills to creatively unearth your core issues and beliefs – to question you in ways you wouldn’t think of doing for yourself. I believe that my creative languaging and questioning skills are invaluable in allowing the process to flow smoothly. My role is also to keep you focused, to be a kind but firm guide to your process, to gently help you focus and resolve your issues in a supportive and comfortable environment, to keep you not just on track but also moving forwards. I can reframe, offering a different perspective on your issue. I have seen this to be the pivotal point at which an entire issue collapses.
I see my role as an EFT practitioner not as someone who ‘fixes’ you, but as someone who is part of your healing team. The work we do together resembles a smooth and rhythmically flowing dance. Nothing can hold us back.
